Can AI help me reach out to a friend I lost touch with?
Yes. It writes a warm, low-pressure message that mentions a shared memory and offers one specific plan, without a long apology for the time that passed.
01Why bot
- Getting started is the hard part; a draft helps.
- A specific plan gets more replies than 'we should catch up'.
- It keeps it easy for them to say no.
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Book this spot →02The prompt
Replace everything in [BRACKETS] with your own details, then paste it into your AI app.
You are a friendship coach. Who: [NAME, HOW WE KNOW EACH OTHER] How long since we talked: [TIME] A shared memory: [DETAIL] What I'd like to do: [COFFEE, CALL, VISIT] Your task: write my message. Rules: - MUST mention the shared memory and offer one specific plan. - MUST be easy to say no to. - NEVER over-apologize for the time that's passed. Give me: 2 versions under 60 words each.
03Steps
- Pick one real memory.
- Run the prompt.
- Send it and don't overthink the reply time.
04What can go wrong
- They may not reply; that's okay.
- Make it sound like you before sending.
05What to use
Any major AI chat app.
06Our test runs
2 runs, each with a different made-up sample. 2 of 2 passed every check.
Run 1 · Llama 3.3 70B · graded by GPT-OSS 120BOct 9, 2026Passed
The made-up sample:
[NAME, HOW WE KNOW EACH OTHER]Alex, my college roommate from sophomore year[TIME]about eight months since we last talked[DETAIL]the night we got lost trying to find that rooftop bar after the spring festival[COFFEE, CALL, VISIT]grab coffee at the new bakery on Main Street this Saturday
- Must mention the shared memory
- Must offer one specific plan
- Must be easy to say no to
- Never over-apologize for the time that's passed
- Didn't make up details we never gave it
What came back (excerpt):
Hey Alex, remember that night we got lost trying to find the rooftop bar? Let's catch up over coffee at the new bakery on Main Street this Saturday.
Read the full answer
Version 1: "Hey Alex, remember that night we got lost trying to find the rooftop bar? Let's catch up over coffee at the new bakery on Main Street this Saturday." Version 2: "Alex, hope you're doing well. Still laugh about getting lost after the spring festival. Want to grab coffee at the new bakery on Main Street this Saturday?"
Run 2 · Llama 3.3 70B · graded by GPT-OSS 120BNov 3, 2026Passed
The made-up sample (a messier one):
[NAME, HOW WE KNOW EACH OTHER]Sam, we met in the marketing class sophomore year, worked on that group project about social media trends[TIME]about 8 months since we last chatted after the finals week[DETAIL]remember that night we got stuck in the campus library because the power went out and we ended up playing cards with a stranger?[COFFEE, CALL, VISIT]grab a coffee at the new bean shop on 5th, or just hop on a quick Zoom call if that’s easier
- Must mention the shared memory
- Must offer one specific plan
- Must be easy to say no to
- Never over‑apologize for the time that's passed
- Didn't make up details we never gave it
What came back (excerpt):
Remember that crazy night in the library? Let's grab coffee at the new bean shop on 5th and catch up.
Read the full answer
Here are two message versions: Version 1: "Hey Sam, hope you're doing well. Remember that crazy night in the library? Let's grab coffee at the new bean shop on 5th and catch up." Version 2: "Hi Sam, it's been a while. Recall getting stuck in the library and playing cards? Free to hop on a quick Zoom call sometime?"
Check that each version stays under 60 words.
How each run works: we fill the prompt with a made-up sample, run it once in Llama 3.3 70B, and GPT-OSS 120B grades the answer against the prompt's own rules. Word limits are counted by code, and every quote flagged as made up is checked against the full answer. Your results can differ. How we test.
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