Can AI help me make friends in a new city?

Half. It can build a realistic plan (where to show up, how often, what to say) and help with invites, but friendships come from showing up repeatedly. That part is yours.

Verdict: Half-bot · AI helps, you finish✓ Tested 2 times in Llama 3.3 70B · Oct 31, 2026Written for ChatGPT, Claude or Gemini

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Half-bot

01Why half-bot

  • Planning a weekly routine of recurring activities is easy for AI.
  • It can suggest openers and follow-up messages.
  • It doesn't know which local groups are active; you check.
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02The prompt

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You are a friendship coach for people who just moved.

My city: [CITY]
My interests: [INTERESTS]
Free time per week: [HOURS]
What feels hard: [SHY, NO TIME, DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START]

Your task: make me a 6-week plan to meet people.

Rules:
- MUST favor recurring activities (same group, same time each week) over one-off events.
- MUST include 2 easy conversation openers and a follow-up message template.
- NEVER name specific local groups as active; tell me what to search for.

Give me: the weekly plan, the openers and the follow-up template.

03Steps

  1. Pick two recurring activities.
  2. Show up at least 4 times.
  3. Invite one person to something small.

04What can go wrong

  • It takes time; don't judge it by week one.
  • Meet new people in public places.

05What to use

Any major AI chat app.

06Our test runs

2 runs, each with a different made-up sample. 1 of 2 passed every check.

Run 1 · Llama 3.3 70B · graded by GPT-OSS 120BOct 7, 2026Passed

The made-up sample:

  • [CITY]Riverbend, a midsize city of about 250,000 people known for its riverfront parks and vibrant downtown arts scene.
  • [INTERESTS]Hiking, indie music, board games, and cooking Thai food.
  • [HOURS]8 hours per week available for social activities.
  • [SHY, NO TIME, DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START]I’m introverted and feel nervous approaching strangers, my work schedule leaves limited free time, and I’m unsure which local clubs or meet‑ups would be a good fit.
  • Favor recurring activities over one‑off events
  • Include two easy conversation openers
  • Include a follow‑up message template
  • Never name specific local groups
  • Didn't make up details we never gave it

What came back (excerpt):

### Easy Conversation Openers 1. **Shared Activity Interest**: "What brings you to this [hike/music night/board game night] tonight? I'm really enjoying [specific aspect of the event]."
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Given your interests and constraints, I've created a 6-week plan to help you meet new people in Riverbend. This plan focuses on recurring activities that fit your schedule and preferences.

### Weekly Plan

**Week 1: Explore Local Hiking Groups**
- Dedicate 2 hours to searching for hiking groups in Riverbend that meet weekly. Look for groups that focus on casual, beginner-friendly hikes.
- Join a group that hikes every weekend, ideally on Saturdays or Sundays, to ensure consistency.

**Week 2: Indie Music Night**
- Spend 2 hours searching for venues or groups that host weekly indie music nights or open mic events in Riverbend's downtown area.
- Attend an event that recurs every week, aiming for a weekday evening to balance out your weekend hiking.

**Week 3: Board Game Café**
- Allocate 2 hours to finding a board game café or a group that meets weekly for board game nights.
- Visit a café or join a group that meets at the same time every week, possibly on a Wednesday or Thursday evening.

**Week 4: Cooking Class**
- Use 2 hours to search for cooking classes or workshops in Riverbend that focus on Thai cuisine or international cooking.
- Enroll in a class that meets weekly, if possible, aiming for a Monday or Tuesday evening to start your week.

**Week 5: Volunteer at a Riverfront Park**
- Dedicate 2 hours to looking for volunteer opportunities at Riverbend's riverfront parks, focusing on activities like park cleanups or gardening.
- Participate in a recurring volunteer event, ideally on weekends, to meet like-minded individuals while contributing to your community.

**Week 6: Combine Interests and Follow Up**
- Spend your 2 hours attending a combination of the activities you've enjoyed the most from the previous weeks.
- Make sure to follow up with people you've met, using the conversation openers and follow-up message template provided below.

### Easy Conversation Openers
1. **Shared Activity Interest**: "What brings you to this [hike/music night/board game night] tonight? I'm really enjoying [specific aspect of the event]."
2. **Local Insight**: "Have you lived in Riverbend long? I'm still exploring and would love some recommendations on [hiking trails/restaurants/hidden gems]."

### Follow-Up Message Template
"Hi [Name], it was great meeting you at [event/location] last [day of the week]. I wanted to follow up on [something you discussed or a shared interest]. If you're free, maybe we could [suggest a low-key meetup, like grabbing coffee or going for a hike]. Looking forward to hearing from you and hopefully catching up soon. Best, [Your Name]"

This plan is designed to gradually introduce you to various social settings, allowing you to find what works best for you while respecting your introverted nature and limited free time. Remember, the key is consistency and follow-through, so make sure to attend the events regularly and reach out to people you meet. Good luck!

Ensure no specific local groups are named.

Run 2 · Llama 3.3 70B · graded by GPT-OSS 120BOct 31, 2026Passed with a catch

The made-up sample (a messier one):

  • [CITY]Portside, a mid‑size lakeside town about 90 min north of the capital, with a growing craft‑beer scene and a lot of bike paths.
  • [INTERESTS]I love indie board games, weekend hikes (especially waterfall trails), trying out new coffee roasters, and I dabble in digital illustration—sometimes I sketch on my tablet while listening to lo‑fi beats.
  • [HOURS]Around 6‑8 hours a week I can spare, usually evenings Mon‑Thu after 6 pm and Saturday mornings until noon.
  • [SHY, NO TIME, DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START]I’m pretty shy, work eats up most of my weekdays, and I have no idea which local clubs or meet‑ups actually feel welcoming for a newcomer.
  • Must favor recurring activities over one‑off events
  • Must include 2 easy conversation openers
  • Must include a follow‑up message template
  • Never name specific local groups; tell what to search for
  • Made up details we never gave it

Details it made up: “Monday evenings (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm)”, “Saturday mornings (9:00 am - 12:00 pm)”, “Tuesday evenings (6:00 pm - 8:00 pm)”, “Thursday evenings (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm)”, “Week 1-2:”

What came back (excerpt):

Given your interests and constraints, I've created a 6-week plan to help you meet new people in Portside. This plan focuses on recurring activities that align with your hobbies and availability.
Read the full answer
Given your interests and constraints, I've created a 6-week plan to help you meet new people in Portside. This plan focuses on recurring activities that align with your hobbies and availability.

### Weekly Plan

**Week 1-2:**
- **Monday evenings (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm):** Look for a local board game group that meets weekly. This setting allows for easy interactions over games, which can help break the ice.
- **Saturday mornings (9:00 am - 12:00 pm):** Search for a hiking or outdoor group that organizes weekly hikes. Given your love for weekend hikes and waterfall trails, this is a great way to meet like-minded individuals while enjoying nature.

**Week 3-4:**
- **Tuesday evenings (6:00 pm - 8:00 pm):** Find a coffee tasting or coffee and art group. Many coffee roasters host events or have spaces where artists can sketch while enjoying their coffee. This could be a great place to meet people who share your interests in coffee and digital illustration.
- **Thursday evenings (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm):** Look for a digital art or illustration group that meets weekly. This could be a class, workshop, or simply a meet-up where people share their work and get feedback.

**Week 5-6:**
- **Continue with the activities from the previous weeks.** By now, you should have a routine and hopefully, some acquaintances. Consider hosting a small gathering, like a game night or a hike, and invite people you've met. This can help deepen connections.
- **Explore bike paths on your own or with new acquaintances.** While there isn't a specific group activity planned for biking, using the bike paths can be a great way to enjoy your free time and potentially meet others who share your interest in cycling.

### Easy Conversation Openers
1. **"What brings you to this group/event?"** - This is a straightforward way to understand someone's interests and can lead to discussions about shared hobbies or passions.
2. **"Have you tried any of the new coffee roasters in town?"** - Given Portside's growing craft-beer and coffee scene, asking about new places can lead to recommendations and conversations about local favorites.

### Follow-up Message Template
"Hi [Name], it was great meeting you at [event/group name] this [day of the week]. I really enjoyed [something specific you talked about or did together]. Would love to catch up again, maybe over a cup of coffee or at our next [group/event] meeting? Looking forward to hearing from you."

This template is friendly, references your shared activity, and suggests a casual meet-up, which can help in building a connection without feeling too pushy.

Remember, the key to making friends is consistency and follow-through. Stick to your schedule, be open to new experiences, and don't hesitate to reach out to people you meet. Good luck!

Check that no specific local group names are mentioned and activities are recurring.

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